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Friday 25 September 2020

The Wisdom of Challenging Wokeness

    Carmella is firmly of the opinion that the time has come for us to be more vocal should we find ourselves objecting to something a more Woke friend might have to say about an issue. Judith said it's all very well saying something like that but as far as she was concerned it would depend very much upon the issue under discussion and she for one wasn't going to voice an opinion about tearing down slave trader statues in Bristol.   After a second or two she added `or any statue in Bristol for that matter.'  Marilyn said nothing at all and simply sipped on her gin and tonic.  I think I said something about not all statues in Bristol being likely to be associated with the slave trade but not all that loudly either and in any case they weren't really listening.

    Carmella can always be relied upon to be what used to be called Feisty and is now probably called something else.  As Judith pointed out in an email conversation later that evening, she successfully managed to get herself arrested during that peaceful march in 1979.  Neither of us could remember what we had been marching about and later Marilyn said she couldn't recall marching at all. It was Judith's firmly held opinion that it simply didn't do these days to be too outspoken where some topics were concerned because people got upset and if they got really upset you might find yourself having to defend a point of view that should never have been expressed in the first place.   `Better by far that some opinions are kept to yourself,' she said and added,  `like it used to be years ago when we didn't talk about politics or religion'.  

    All of us could clearly remember being told way back in the time when it was perfectly acceptable to hold an opinion that differed perhaps from the majority that even so certain subjects were definitely taboo, not for general examination, to be kept to ourselves.   By and large it saved a great deal of the angst that went alongside picking over and discussing such matters.  I couldn't help forcefully reiterating that even so it was still acceptable back in those halcyon days to hold views that Society did not approve of - you didn't actually get persecuted for it did you?   

    It was Carmella who ventured that the age we now lived in was not dissimilar to that faced by the unfortunate accused Witches of the sixteenth century.  Once suspected it was a bloody nightmare to extricate yourself from the allegation and if you were our age, lived alone, grew your own vegetables and owned a black cat you might as well give up all hope of anyone believing in your innocence.  

    We decided upon a second round of liquid sustenance and it was Carmella's turn to buy.  Whilst she was in the throes of ordering we largely agreed that her ideas were not always entirely sensible.   I think it was Judith who added that Wokeness itself was bound to pass - eventually.  Witch trials did in the end!  

Monday 14 September 2020

WHAT ON EARTH WAS I THINKING ...... ?

 You would have thought that at my great age and considering the vast and varied experience of life I have stumbled in and out of that I would have had more sense than to enter into a social media spat with someone - well wouldn't you?   But clearly I have learned nothing over the years and am incapable of taking advice.  My family would say they've been pointing that out for years but predictably I've never been able to absorb any part of their combined wisdom.   

No - I still know best!   With hindsight I have just the sneakiest feeling that she who challenged me, and `challenge' is not really the most apt word, had a great deal more experience of social media combat than me.  She proceeded to tear me apart with admirable precision, pursuing me relentlessly over hours.  I spent a great deal of time looking up definitions of the terms she was using as she repeatedly accused me of `Gaslighting' her and advised me that this wasn't my `first rodeo'.  Despite Googling through the small hours I'm still uncertain what it was I was actually doing to her because I rather thought that she was the perpetrator but there you go!

How often have I advised others to simply ignore verbal insults because sticks and stones break bones but words can't hurt?   Well I won't be saying anything like that again for a while.  Insults and abuse from behind a keyboard, coming from an unknown adversary are indeed strangely hurtful and I am at a loss to understand why. Little wonder that teenagers exposed to the same cyber vitriol find themselves completely unable to cope with it.   I can only repeat - what on earth was I thinking to get involved in the argument in the first place?  I should have listened to those who Know Better.