A More Simple Time In Which To Live

Years ago it would be true to say that older family members were always totally prepared to throw themselves into all that was customary and went hand in hand with a relative’s passing. This wasn’t simply in our family, but also in those around us. Rather ungraciously I have in the past been wont to say that with us it was entirely because the end of life also went hand in hand with a great deal of alcohol but maybe that is not entirely correct. My grandmother and aunts on hearing of the latest death immediately busied themselves with the covering of mirrors and ensured that all photographs were laid face down. This was because they were in every respect superstitious and wanted to be on the Safe Side. My grandmother was so keen for us to be safe that when we walked at night she was apt to insist that we walk in the middle of the road so as not to disturb the spirits of the wayside even when that wayside consisted merely of the meagre little front gardens of Iron Mill Lane. They had some very odd ideas. Aunt Mag once told me that the stubs of funeral candles could be beneficial when laid on burns and at least one of the aunts warned us all to take care when walking in graveyards and not stumble close to new graves for to do so would ensure we would be dead within a year and so of course we walked very carefully indeed. Whether these beliefs had first and foremost come out of Ireland generations previously, or whether they were more recently acquired Kentish beliefs is hard to say. It’s possible that they were simply the false notions of their time and more widespread than immediately obvious. Along with these viewpoints they also held firm ideas about the cause of illness. Sitting in a draught would result in pneumonia especially if you had just washed your hair. Women should never wash their hair when menstruating for fear of something so disastrous it could not be openly discussed. Sitting on a cold step would certainly give you Piles.

My grandmother avoided the marshland so loved by my teenage cousins Harold and Leslie with their rabbiting rifles. The Crayford Marshes directly flanked the early estate housing where she lived and lay beyond The Jolly Farmers and The London Road, and it promised all manner of exciting activities but our grandmother asserted that it was the Ruin of the lungs and hers in particular. The Hearts of Oak roll ups she determinedly smoked, she assured us helped to counteract the deadly vapours that rose up from the damp terrain and gave you Marsh Fever. She was strangely unconcerned about the layers of cement dust that coated the roofs of Stone Village, a few miles further down the river and passed regularly on the 480 bus route to Gravesend. There was something slightly exotic about the riverside village of Stone that had grown so rapidly during the middle of the nineteenth century, sprouting row after row of Victorian terraced housing to accommodate the local cement factory workers. When I was six or seven years old I was convinced that the grey-white covering on rooftops and bushes was a kind of everlasting snow, unbending to the heat of summer and I had envied my cousin Little Doris, whose mother had died at her birth simply because she and her father Poor Arthur Steele had briefly lived there. My Grandmother would gaze fondly from the windows of the bus and comment that she had a lot of time for Stone, and that years ago she had spent many a happy hour with her Edgar at The Brown Bear that lay just beyond the Almshouses and that she had pitied the women forced to live in Them Places, crowded in together and never once allowed an evening out at The Bear even though it was right there on their doorstep. Even at the time I marveled at the fact that she and my father viewed the area quite differently, he telling me more about the local castle that was made completely of flint and built as long ago as the reign of King Stephen, whenever that might have been. Neither of them seemed unduly concerned about the effects of the cement snow upon the health of those living in the area.

In comparison, Northfleet and its surrounding environs seemed then a surprisingly healthy place in which to live considering the amount of industry that polluted Thameside settlements at that time. If you avoided renting those houses closest to the various cement works, you were unlikely to be overly bothered by the contamination they caused though conversely neither would you be so close to your probable place of employment. All this meant you simply had an important choice to make about your workplace and any repercussions would be nobody’s fault but your own. In many ways it was a more simple time in which to live and the widely held belief systems were equally simplistic and if not everyone actually believed in them wholeheartedly, they at least paid lip service to them.

I still wonder about the advisability of sitting too long on those cold stone steps!